#2~Train By Example
I am blessed to be called “Mother”, “Mom”, and “Mama” by three, amazing, grown children and blessed to be called “Nee~Nee”, “Grammy”, “Queenie”, and “Grandma” by 7 grandchildren. I refer to my children as my Babies and to all my grandchildren as my Baby Grands. I am a full-time grandmother to 3 of my Baby Grands while my daughter is furthering her education in college and working in healthcare. My absolute favorite thing in the world is to be surrounded by my children and grandchildren. We love to sit around the table for dinner and then play games or watch old favorite movies. When we bought our new home in 2016 my main requirement was for a large gathering area for my family.
I was and currently am a flawed human being. I was not and am not a perfect mother or grandmother, but I never stop trying. If I can help one parent on their blessed journey? Then I consider myself blessed also.
One of the greatest problems parents have with their children is a total lack of respect. This is on display pretty much anywhere you go in public. Four and five year olds ranting at that parents and even swatting at them is much more the norm than I like. Sadly, many times, the parent has their hands so full, they have no spare moments to notice their sweet baby is developing a mind-set that will be nearly impossible to change.
One of the greatest tools in the parental tool box is manners. As parents, this is one that must be taught in words and deeds. If we hand our eighteen month old an apple and instruct them to say “Thank You” that is a good thing! But if we turn around and ask our five year old to put something in the trash, why do we think we don’t need to thank them? Is it possibly because they are our child and should just do as we say? Do we have the mentality that as the parent, we do not need to practice what we preach?
My 3 year old granddaughter is very good about minding her manners most of the time. Manners are all inclusive for chewing with her mouth closed, (still a work in progress), to saying “Thank you”, “Your welcome”, “Please”, sharing toys with her sister, not throwing tantrums, tot running in front of people, and waiting her turn to speak. She is now saying, “Yes, Ma’am”, when I ask her to do something. When I do ask her to do something I say “Please” and after she does it, I thank her.
By minding your manners, Mom and Dad, you are conveying to their young hearts and minds that you appreciate them and their efforts to please you. This should follow both you and your child throughout your lives. When they are teenagers? The last thing they may want to do is lay aside their phone or tablet, but when you say “Please”? A lifetime of training comes shining through and they will generally do as you ask with only half the attitude you will get from just a straight order.
Yes, there will be times when a simple “Please” will not cut it, but save your breath and frustration by applying your manners early and often as you train up your child from birth to be mindful of using their manners.
The best way to “train” is teaching by example. Children learn at a very early age if Mommy and Daddy “DO”and “MEAN” what they say, or if they are a Mommy and Daddy who practice “Do as I say, not as I do”.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6